"Rules" of the first date

There are a lot of people that face a question: "how to behave on the first date?" There are no special rules of the first date. People simply worry about everything and that is why they ask for some recommendations. The best recommendation is to behave naturally and be sincere.

But nowadays there are a lot of so called "rules" that recommend people to act this or that way.

People worry about unnecessary things like: "Will he/she laugh at my jokes? Will he/she notice my new haircut? What are we going to talk about?" The result of such nervous thoughts is the confirmation of our negative expectative. People don't like to spend time with those who feel too nervous. The aim of the date is not to make unbelievable impression but to spend good time with a person and do everything to make him/her spend good time too. Only in this case a person will want to have another date with you.

The first rule is to ask the questions that he/she would like to answer. Such questions as "Where do you work? Do you like your job?" are so frequently asked that a person will answer just being polite. The aim is to be special and original. Your aim is to let him/her feel comfortable but not to make him/her feel like he is filling in a form. If you are really interested in his/her job, ask him/her why he has chosen this occupation. This question may lead to more discussed topics.

The next recommendation is not to think about your problems while the date and of course not to tell about them to your boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't tell him/her about your former lovers, your nervous chief or about problems in the family. But you shouldn't lie. To complain and to tell the truth are different things. If you hate your work and chief simply don't discuss it and change the subject.

Before a date you must read some news.Read newspapers, watch TV news. If you know what is happening in the world, you'll have the topics to discuss with your date.

And after the date appears a question "Who should pay?" If a man wants to pay the whole bill, a woman shouldn't try to do it whatever it takes. You can divide it and pay together. But don't begin to calculate and say that he/she must pay more because he/she ate a salad and you didn't.

Any way there are no exact rules how to behave during the first date. The only thing you need to do is to be sincere and to tell the truth then difficult situations won't appear.